Changing your life is hard. It's really hard. I mean, surprisingly hard.
For anyone that has attempted to make some significant changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in the same mediocre way any more, you've potentially experienced the growing pains that come together with deciding to live in an other way. You are constantly tested, you fail time and again, and it's very difficult to see the world in the light of positivism.
It doesn't necessarily demand to be that way.
You see, people struggle with deep change because they do not know how to act when the negative emotions start bubbling up. They believe that because negativeness is occuring that they have got to be doing it all wrong. No! Not in any way. In reality if you are seriously wrestling and it hurts a little, you're doing things right. You are growing. You're moving past your zone of comfort.
When you're going through large changes, you're going to come across some gruelling problems. Pain is going to come out to play, your interior critic is going to run wild, and you are going to have some struggles. That's fantasically ok! It really means you are heading in the proper direction. Don't give up now when you are suffering discomfort. Keep going and see it all the way through and you will cross the finish line a transformed person.
The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about how to get close enough to the discomfort to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are creating a new life, old things really tend to flow out and you have got to spend a good amount of time working with them. This is a standard part of the growing process. But you have got to work with them because if you do not, you run the danger of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.
So how do you do this?
You have got to get sufficiently close to the discomfort and experience it without getting completely consumed by it. You've got to be content to bring yourself to the unpleasant places and let the thoughts and emotions swirl around you without taking you wholly out of the game. When that can be done, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.
This takes a bit of skill and lots of practice, but if you can really spend some time working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.
For anyone that has attempted to make some significant changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in the same mediocre way any more, you've potentially experienced the growing pains that come together with deciding to live in an other way. You are constantly tested, you fail time and again, and it's very difficult to see the world in the light of positivism.
It doesn't necessarily demand to be that way.
You see, people struggle with deep change because they do not know how to act when the negative emotions start bubbling up. They believe that because negativeness is occuring that they have got to be doing it all wrong. No! Not in any way. In reality if you are seriously wrestling and it hurts a little, you're doing things right. You are growing. You're moving past your zone of comfort.
When you're going through large changes, you're going to come across some gruelling problems. Pain is going to come out to play, your interior critic is going to run wild, and you are going to have some struggles. That's fantasically ok! It really means you are heading in the proper direction. Don't give up now when you are suffering discomfort. Keep going and see it all the way through and you will cross the finish line a transformed person.
The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about how to get close enough to the discomfort to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are creating a new life, old things really tend to flow out and you have got to spend a good amount of time working with them. This is a standard part of the growing process. But you have got to work with them because if you do not, you run the danger of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.
So how do you do this?
You have got to get sufficiently close to the discomfort and experience it without getting completely consumed by it. You've got to be content to bring yourself to the unpleasant places and let the thoughts and emotions swirl around you without taking you wholly out of the game. When that can be done, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.
This takes a bit of skill and lots of practice, but if you can really spend some time working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Feeling ready to take the journey of your life? Dive into these life goes on quotes for some wise words on what it means to live honestly.
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