How To Get Kids To Listen Effectively

By Carolyn Long


Children have a lot going on, both on an emotional level as well as with what they have to do with their life. It is often difficult for them to listen to their parents and teachers. It is not always as if they are being disobedient. Very often, things become chaotic in their lives. Parents need to know how to get kids to listen without becoming frustrated.

Of course, this can be difficult when you are calling your child for dinner or you are trying to talk to them and they are busy in their own world. A lot of parents naturally become impatient and start to raise their voice. This is not very helpful because it can lead to a lot of conflict in the home. Some children become fearful of the parents.

When they are busy with something, such as an art project, they become completely engaged in it. They forget about what is going on within the home environment. They switch off to everything else, and parents don't always realize this. It is important for parents to connect with their child gently and make sure that they are listening before they actually start talking to them.

Children will start to learn about various orders and commands over time. However, they don't want to become fearful of the parent, thinking that they will become threatened in one way or another. Parents should exercise caution, using empathy and compassion when talking to their child. They will strengthen the bond between the parent and the child.

The brain is developing at this time and this is something that you have to keep in mind. You can't overwhelm your child by talking to them, using a lot of words or using your words in such a way that they are not going to understand. You need to get down to their level. Use their language. They can only take in so much at this stage of their lives.

There should be no control or power in the relationship because this will also create fear. Kids will start to listen to the adult, but it is not the right way to go about it. It will weaken the bond and they will grow up with psychological issues. They may find that that fear creeps in when they are exposed to authority figures in their life.

One can become impatient at times when children don't listen to what you are saying. You must realize that this is part of the development process and you need to stay calm. Take a deep breath and remember that if you start to become upset and raise your voice, the situation is only going to become worse.

Some children who have attention deficit disorder will also battle to listen. This can also cause impatience on the part of the parent. Kids will be so busy talking, that they don't have the chance to listen to their parent. They are filled with energy that they need to burn off. It is best that a parent learns how to cope with this.




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