Learning The Art Of Flirting

By Brett Vaughan


Flirting is a skill that some people are naturally good at while others have to practice and work at it in order to perfect the skill. With the art of flirting, one has to overcome the conditioning that creates the assumption that strangers are dangerous; in fact, it is said that they beauty of flirting within the anonymity of the random person one chooses to flirt with especially if they are strangers.

For those that have a hard time approaching other people, and lack the confidence to do so need practice which is better done by approaching random stranger and learning how to initiate a conversation. This way, one has nothing to lose if they make a fool out of themselves since they probably never meet these people again which build their confidence before they meet the right person.

By doing more practice one get better at this by being more comfortable and figures out what works for them and more so how to take a beating of their ego as one is bound to rejections. As time goes by, one gets comfortable practicing it with random stranger which shows one can move to the next step that involves semi-strangers and move on as confidence to approach the people they like is gathered.

In this game there are those that may seem intimidating which bring the fear of approaching them; in this case, one should assume that their target is waiting for them to go ahead which is probably the case most of the times. For those that have gone through the exchanging numbers part and maybe even saliva, it usually is easier as they have more confidence to withstand rejection.

Normally, flirting begins with the eyes, then to the mouth and some coyness or shyness especially for women. This tends to be different for men and women as men are only expected to portray boldness and not shyness which is seen as attractive when done by women. With time, women have grown confident enough to be the once doing the approaching and not waiting for the men to do it.

There usually is no right place for this as it can be done anywhere, all one needs to know is be able to take hints and read signals. For instance, a blink, a smile, or shyness may be a signal hinting to you that someone want you to approach them. However, being over flirtatious may be off-putting as one may seem easy and creepy especially if it is a lady does it.

Flirting is usually a progressive as it starts with the eyes, moves to the smile, then the body language and later the approaching. Being able to ignite a conversation is key as it avoids the awkward moments when people are just are each others with no words. As the conversation continues, one can try to break the touch barrier but still make it short and sweet.

For a successful flirting moment, there are certain rules that come in handy making it interesting and fun. For people who want to secure a second date it is important to be careful and ensure that one leaves when the date is going very well. This way, one leaves a suspense that lets the other person want to meet again and finish what was started.




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