There are going to be times when the people who are the closest to you put you through tests. Some of these are true love tests. They will put you through these games because they feel as if they are not worthy of you caring and being with them. Some people just feel that if it is too good to be true for them, then most likely it might be.
So, what do you do if you want the relationship without the game playing? You have to talk to your partner and find out what is going on with them. There is a reason that they do not trust you. You also have to look at yourself and see if you are doing something that warrants them not trusting you.
Are you staying out late? Sneaking in the middle of the night to make phone calls, or are you just too mysterious. When in a relationship you have to take the other persons feelings into consideration at all times. That person should be part of you, and vice verse, there should never be a question about feelings or commitment.
There are many counselors and therapists who can work with couples who are going through these types of problems. These people help others to get to the root of why they feel that they are not being capable of love without having to send another person through hoops to prove themselves to them. People with insecurities should take time to find out what they are expecting and looking for in a relationship.
Tests or games no one likes them, nor do they want to play them when it comes to relationships. The best thing that you can do is sit down and talk to your partner. Let them know how you are feeling and what the games are doing to the relationship.
There have been many counselors, or therapists who have helped save a marriage. Some people put their significant other through tests because they do not know what it feels like to be loved by someone else. It could derive from a troubled past, or someone who has hurt them long before being with you.
It is important to take time to understand where the person is coming from. You do not want to throw them under the bus, and tell them they have a problem and just walk away. They might literally have a problem and just need a little help to see that what they are doing is not okay. So, you want to come up with a plan to get them and your relationship help.
It might also be necessary to seek professional help for the relationship if no one seems to be listening. Therapists, or counselors are great when it comes to needing someone to hear both sides out. The therapists will not be judgmental and they do not take sides. They just make easy for both parties to be heard without the other interrupting or walking away. Some people like to start with therapists because they know that they will never be able to get through to their significant other on their own.
So, what do you do if you want the relationship without the game playing? You have to talk to your partner and find out what is going on with them. There is a reason that they do not trust you. You also have to look at yourself and see if you are doing something that warrants them not trusting you.
Are you staying out late? Sneaking in the middle of the night to make phone calls, or are you just too mysterious. When in a relationship you have to take the other persons feelings into consideration at all times. That person should be part of you, and vice verse, there should never be a question about feelings or commitment.
There are many counselors and therapists who can work with couples who are going through these types of problems. These people help others to get to the root of why they feel that they are not being capable of love without having to send another person through hoops to prove themselves to them. People with insecurities should take time to find out what they are expecting and looking for in a relationship.
Tests or games no one likes them, nor do they want to play them when it comes to relationships. The best thing that you can do is sit down and talk to your partner. Let them know how you are feeling and what the games are doing to the relationship.
There have been many counselors, or therapists who have helped save a marriage. Some people put their significant other through tests because they do not know what it feels like to be loved by someone else. It could derive from a troubled past, or someone who has hurt them long before being with you.
It is important to take time to understand where the person is coming from. You do not want to throw them under the bus, and tell them they have a problem and just walk away. They might literally have a problem and just need a little help to see that what they are doing is not okay. So, you want to come up with a plan to get them and your relationship help.
It might also be necessary to seek professional help for the relationship if no one seems to be listening. Therapists, or counselors are great when it comes to needing someone to hear both sides out. The therapists will not be judgmental and they do not take sides. They just make easy for both parties to be heard without the other interrupting or walking away. Some people like to start with therapists because they know that they will never be able to get through to their significant other on their own.
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