The word "should" is an incredibly dangerous word.
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word can do a significant amount of damage to your life and keep you utterly stuck in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself utter the words before...
"That shouldn't have happened...this should have happened...it should have gone this way."
The very fact of the matter is that it didn't go that way at all.
When you are living in the land of should you are living in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you aren't fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didn't actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you can't accept the reality of the situation.
So what's the skill to learn here? Come back to the present moment over and over again.
When your "should" is existing in the future, you are projecting what "needs" to happen onto a time and place that you can't actually see. You are essentially diving into the unknown and out of fear (typically) wanting certain situations to go certain ways. What happens if they don't? You end up being incredibly disappointed in the current events.
You have to come back.
It's the painful experiences of life that cause us to try to lock our hearts away and project our experience onto the unknown. Truth is, the real magic of life comes when you decide to live in the mystery and forget trying to understand what's about to happen.
The dark times will always be present.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
So...you have to view it this way. What happened happened...and it couldn't have happened in any other way.
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
What will happen...will happen...and it will be the most perfect thing for me.
"Should" doesn't exist in your life anymore and you live in the present.
No past.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
You're living "here."
So stay connected with the present moment.
Accept.
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word can do a significant amount of damage to your life and keep you utterly stuck in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself utter the words before...
"That shouldn't have happened...this should have happened...it should have gone this way."
The very fact of the matter is that it didn't go that way at all.
When you are living in the land of should you are living in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you aren't fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didn't actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you can't accept the reality of the situation.
So what's the skill to learn here? Come back to the present moment over and over again.
When your "should" is existing in the future, you are projecting what "needs" to happen onto a time and place that you can't actually see. You are essentially diving into the unknown and out of fear (typically) wanting certain situations to go certain ways. What happens if they don't? You end up being incredibly disappointed in the current events.
You have to come back.
It's the painful experiences of life that cause us to try to lock our hearts away and project our experience onto the unknown. Truth is, the real magic of life comes when you decide to live in the mystery and forget trying to understand what's about to happen.
The dark times will always be present.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
So...you have to view it this way. What happened happened...and it couldn't have happened in any other way.
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
What will happen...will happen...and it will be the most perfect thing for me.
"Should" doesn't exist in your life anymore and you live in the present.
No past.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
You're living "here."
So stay connected with the present moment.
Accept.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into some great bible quotes on faith by clicking here or read more quotes on hope.
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