It's easy to forget just how powerful our subconscious minds can be. We are often completely unaware of how our actions (or inaction) are affecting our lives. We may complain that things never work out for us, we always seem to have bad luck, or we just don't have what it takes to be successful.
With this type of thinking, very few people realize that their path to success is really being blocked by their subconscious self-sabotage. That's right; most people don't even know that it's their way of thinking that is hindering their chances of success - and nothing else.
But since our subconsciousness is just that, a subconsciousness, it's seemingly out of our control. But that's a fallacy. We can counter our subconscious self-sabotage by using our conscious awareness; we need to take a deeper look into how we feel and what we fear - but we have to do this on an intellectual level (which doesn't mean you need to be a genius by the way). By doing this we're able to pinpoint any reason for behaving that is counter-intuitive to our ambitions. Once we realize what the issue is, it's much easier to plan the next step in overcoming our self-sabotage. But in order to recognize the issue, we need to know exactly what happens we sabotage ourselves.
Often subconsciously, we may be frightened by a particular outcome, even though we say we want it. Take for example, losing weight. Many overweight people have struggled for years, tried diet after diet, and still can't lose the weight (or keep it off). They berate themselves, push themselves harder, and try to force the weight off. But what's happening beneath the surface? Do they really want to lose their excess pounds? They may say they do, but what if their layers of fat are providing a sense of protection and security in an uncertain world? What if they feel the need to cover up and conceal themselves? Losing weight then becomes a threatening, frightening possibility. So they might sabotage their diet efforts in order to avoid feeling too vulnerable and exposed. Even though they say they want to lose weight (and even believe they do) they still might set themselves up for failure by sneaking food, skipping exercise, and then making a promise that they'll try harder tomorrow.
Self-sabotage might also occur when we fear what other people will think of our efforts or we fear the results of actually achieving the goal. When you're worried about the consequences of your efforts (even if they are good) we tend to act in ways that will ensure failure. This doesn't mean we're aware we're doing it. Quite the opposite in fact. Self-sabotage means we are blissfully unaware that we are preventing ourselves from succeeding. We trick our mind into thinking that we're doing everything absolutely right. The key is to take some time and think for a minute about how you are behaving? Do you say you want something but do things that are inconsistent with that ambition? Do you say you want to get some work done but do anything else but the work? Do you feel that you just cannot accomplish your goals even if you try as hard as you possibly can? Do you feel you may not be worthy of your goal?
Time for some good news! We can all overcome this self-sabotage mess. The very first thing you need to do is understand when it's happening - easy right? Wrong! But it can be achieved with deep understanding and conscious awareness of your emotions, thoughts and fears. It's about being brutally honest with yourself. It's about holding yourself to the highest account possible. It's about deciding that your goal is more important than letting yourself off the hook time after time.
If you've been struggling with a certain goal and things just don't seem to be working out for you, take a look at the setbacks that were encountered and evaluate the situation. Could any of the obstacles have been avoided by making wiser choices on your part? Are there a significantly high number of obstacles that seem to have arisen for this one particular goal. Ask yourself what you may be afraid of? What fears do you have? What uncertainties? What makes you feel uncomfortable about this goal? For what reasons would you try to hold yourself back? Can you think of anything at all?
When we become truly aware of our complete control of our actions and our success, we are released from our own chains and are able to explore a world where the sky is the limit. If we're able to lift the fog from our minds and become aware of what we want and what could be holding us back, then self-sabotage has essentially been eliminated. All the energy we were using to destroy and prevent our success will suddenly be used only towards our success. And that's a situation worth thinking about!
With this type of thinking, very few people realize that their path to success is really being blocked by their subconscious self-sabotage. That's right; most people don't even know that it's their way of thinking that is hindering their chances of success - and nothing else.
But since our subconsciousness is just that, a subconsciousness, it's seemingly out of our control. But that's a fallacy. We can counter our subconscious self-sabotage by using our conscious awareness; we need to take a deeper look into how we feel and what we fear - but we have to do this on an intellectual level (which doesn't mean you need to be a genius by the way). By doing this we're able to pinpoint any reason for behaving that is counter-intuitive to our ambitions. Once we realize what the issue is, it's much easier to plan the next step in overcoming our self-sabotage. But in order to recognize the issue, we need to know exactly what happens we sabotage ourselves.
Often subconsciously, we may be frightened by a particular outcome, even though we say we want it. Take for example, losing weight. Many overweight people have struggled for years, tried diet after diet, and still can't lose the weight (or keep it off). They berate themselves, push themselves harder, and try to force the weight off. But what's happening beneath the surface? Do they really want to lose their excess pounds? They may say they do, but what if their layers of fat are providing a sense of protection and security in an uncertain world? What if they feel the need to cover up and conceal themselves? Losing weight then becomes a threatening, frightening possibility. So they might sabotage their diet efforts in order to avoid feeling too vulnerable and exposed. Even though they say they want to lose weight (and even believe they do) they still might set themselves up for failure by sneaking food, skipping exercise, and then making a promise that they'll try harder tomorrow.
Self-sabotage might also occur when we fear what other people will think of our efforts or we fear the results of actually achieving the goal. When you're worried about the consequences of your efforts (even if they are good) we tend to act in ways that will ensure failure. This doesn't mean we're aware we're doing it. Quite the opposite in fact. Self-sabotage means we are blissfully unaware that we are preventing ourselves from succeeding. We trick our mind into thinking that we're doing everything absolutely right. The key is to take some time and think for a minute about how you are behaving? Do you say you want something but do things that are inconsistent with that ambition? Do you say you want to get some work done but do anything else but the work? Do you feel that you just cannot accomplish your goals even if you try as hard as you possibly can? Do you feel you may not be worthy of your goal?
Time for some good news! We can all overcome this self-sabotage mess. The very first thing you need to do is understand when it's happening - easy right? Wrong! But it can be achieved with deep understanding and conscious awareness of your emotions, thoughts and fears. It's about being brutally honest with yourself. It's about holding yourself to the highest account possible. It's about deciding that your goal is more important than letting yourself off the hook time after time.
If you've been struggling with a certain goal and things just don't seem to be working out for you, take a look at the setbacks that were encountered and evaluate the situation. Could any of the obstacles have been avoided by making wiser choices on your part? Are there a significantly high number of obstacles that seem to have arisen for this one particular goal. Ask yourself what you may be afraid of? What fears do you have? What uncertainties? What makes you feel uncomfortable about this goal? For what reasons would you try to hold yourself back? Can you think of anything at all?
When we become truly aware of our complete control of our actions and our success, we are released from our own chains and are able to explore a world where the sky is the limit. If we're able to lift the fog from our minds and become aware of what we want and what could be holding us back, then self-sabotage has essentially been eliminated. All the energy we were using to destroy and prevent our success will suddenly be used only towards our success. And that's a situation worth thinking about!
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