Every person's ability to be successful in personal goal setting mainly depends on himself. Failure, likewise will depend on whether or not the person is determined, diligent, and persistent. Some, though, stay at the middle and choose not to set goals. Here are the five main reasons why they refuse to do so.
Setting Negative Goals The way you think about your personal goals can contribute on how you feel about them, and whether you will achieve them or not. For example, a lot of people set a goal to "lose weight." But, such goal connotes something negative. It is basically centered on something you do not want, and that is your weight. One positive way to reverse this without actually changing the results you want is by setting a goal to "be healthy."
They do not completely understand the significance of goals. If a person perceives something to be important, he will talk about it within his family and friends, will encourage others to do it, and will persistently do it himself. You need to understand how vital goals are for you to be convinced that they are worth pursuing. Know that since they are important, you can have great rewards once you have accomplished them.
Proceed according to stages. This is the purpose of the plan that was mentioned earlier. You need to set your goals in small components complete with the time and date for finishing each phase; the amount of work that has to be done; the details of the plan; and your observations. In other words, your objectives should be broken down in doable steps. If possible write your goal down on a piece of paper or encode the whole plan and save it on your computer. This will serve as your daily reminder of schedules, activities and intentions. Always make this conspicuous so you will never forget your goals.
They fear criticism. Some people do not want to be criticized. They hold back from setting good goals because sometimes other people tell them that they will never reach them, or they will just waste their money, effort, and time. You cannot avoid people who give destructive criticisms instead of those that can motivate you. However, you can do something to minimize the negative things you hear. You can surround yourself with people who also know the importance of goals. Be with people who have set or reached goals. And if you still receive criticisms, one way or another, use them as your stepping stones instead of stumbling blocks.
They are afraid to fail. Most people refuse to set goals because they are scared of failure. Fear of failure can be the greatest obstacle towards success. If you do not overcome your fear, you will never be successful in personal goal setting simply because people naturally avoid that which they fear the most. You must find out why are you terrified of failing then think of ways that will help you beat that fear. You need to be stronger than your fear.
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Setting Negative Goals The way you think about your personal goals can contribute on how you feel about them, and whether you will achieve them or not. For example, a lot of people set a goal to "lose weight." But, such goal connotes something negative. It is basically centered on something you do not want, and that is your weight. One positive way to reverse this without actually changing the results you want is by setting a goal to "be healthy."
They do not completely understand the significance of goals. If a person perceives something to be important, he will talk about it within his family and friends, will encourage others to do it, and will persistently do it himself. You need to understand how vital goals are for you to be convinced that they are worth pursuing. Know that since they are important, you can have great rewards once you have accomplished them.
Proceed according to stages. This is the purpose of the plan that was mentioned earlier. You need to set your goals in small components complete with the time and date for finishing each phase; the amount of work that has to be done; the details of the plan; and your observations. In other words, your objectives should be broken down in doable steps. If possible write your goal down on a piece of paper or encode the whole plan and save it on your computer. This will serve as your daily reminder of schedules, activities and intentions. Always make this conspicuous so you will never forget your goals.
They fear criticism. Some people do not want to be criticized. They hold back from setting good goals because sometimes other people tell them that they will never reach them, or they will just waste their money, effort, and time. You cannot avoid people who give destructive criticisms instead of those that can motivate you. However, you can do something to minimize the negative things you hear. You can surround yourself with people who also know the importance of goals. Be with people who have set or reached goals. And if you still receive criticisms, one way or another, use them as your stepping stones instead of stumbling blocks.
They are afraid to fail. Most people refuse to set goals because they are scared of failure. Fear of failure can be the greatest obstacle towards success. If you do not overcome your fear, you will never be successful in personal goal setting simply because people naturally avoid that which they fear the most. You must find out why are you terrified of failing then think of ways that will help you beat that fear. You need to be stronger than your fear.
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